Babies are born ready to “talk” to you through gazing into your eyes, through their movements, facial expressions and any sounds that they make.
Ideas to help build your relationship with baby
- Take time to get to know your baby by watching and listening to them and how they react to you and their environment.
- Try to learn about their behaviours and cues such as different cries/facial expressions/sounds that they make and movements. Ask yourself what they are trying to tell you:
Are they tired? Bored? Hungry? Feeling alone? Wet? Do they want a cuddle?
- Like any new relationship, it will take time to get to know your baby and it is normal to not know everything about them straight away
- Sometimes we may not know what our baby is trying to tell us. For example, when your baby moves their arms and legs. Are they happy and excited or are they becoming unsettled and needing something else?
- Sometimes you may not know until you try something and see their response- but try to give your baby time to
- It will help your baby if you can wonder and guess what they may be thinking and feeling and also to understand that your thoughts and feelings may be different to your baby’s. For example when changing baby’s nappy, your baby may be crying and their arms and legs moving as though they are upset. They may be upset that the changing mat and baby wipes are cold; they may be feeling upset that their clothes are being removed quickly and they don’t know what is happening. You may be thinking that you want to change their nappy really quickly because baby is upset.
It may help to place a towel on the changing mat so it’s not so cold, if you slow things down and talk to your baby , telling them what you are doing and gently removing their clothes and nappy that this may then help your baby to keep calm and to not feel scared.
- It is helpful to respond to your baby in a predictable way so baby learns what will happen next. When life is predictable this helps babies to feel safe and secure.
- It is helpful to use:
Gentle voice (giving them the message that you are trying to understand them).